Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment – Dale Carnegie
Worrying is more tiring than action. The reason is simple – when we are taking action we are one step closer to the solution while worry makes us go in circles around the problem.
Worrying eats into our emotional energy and feeds our anxiety. It can at times have paralyzing effects, as our brain simply forgets how to function normally when gripped with worries.
How about we learn about 2 ingredients and 5 steps to make our self worry free?
Step 1: What is the ratio of action:worry?
Take a piece of paper and write down three things:
- What is your worry?
- How much do you worry? – 20 mins, 1 hour, 2 hours or 24 hours?
- How much time do you spend taking action about your worry? – 0 min, 20 mins, 1 hour?
Do not judge but only observe!
Step 2: Organize your actions to get desired results
If our actions are not reducing our worries, then something needs to be altered about our actions. We either need to change the way we are thinking about our action or change the action completely. We must organize our actions in such a way that we have 100% confidence that the desired result will be achieved. Only when our actions are organized in such a way, we will worry less and feel at ease. It is then only a matter of time before our problem is solved!
E.g. If I walk for one hour everyday and still worry about weight, it means somewhere I am lacking the confidence that walking will help me reduce my weight.
Two things can be done here: Either I engage in an activity which I believe will give me 100% results or Improve my belief that walking for one hour will definitely lead to weight loss.
By doing this I organize my action in such a way that it will get me my desired result.
Two key ingredients are Belief and Action!
Step3: Resolve to take action
Endless time is spent in thinking about taking the action. Resolve to start taking action from today. It can be as less as for 5 minutes. Taking action will get the ball rolling.
As we start taking action – we start believing in result – we worry less – lesser we worry – the more we action and then the ball gathers speed till the worry is dissolved completely and problem gets solved.
Step4: Ratio Target of Action: Worry should be > 1
Sometimes it’s difficult to stop worrying (it’s human, it’s our habit – whatever our reason!). At such times simply resolve to not only take action but increase time spent in actioning! We have complete freedom to worry as much as we want – All we have to ensure is that we are spending more time taking action.
Once we start spending more time taking actions; we start believing that our problems will be resolved. Once that belief gets installed we automatically action more and subsequently worry less.
Step5: Your choice completely
In my coaching sessions, I often hear “there is absolutely no action I can take to resolve my worry” – the question then one should ask oneself is – How is worry helping me? If it’s not helping me then what is the point of having it? Have you started enjoying worrying? Do you use worry to get attention?
“Don’t worry be happy” is the simplest reality we can choose to live with and yet we choose to worry and not be happy. To worry less and action more is a matter of choice! All we have to do is make that choice 🙂
Who am I? I am Rupa – You know how people sometimes pursue a profession and then realize they are actually a natural at something else? Yes, that was me! After being in equity research for 9 years I decided to make a major career change and pursue my passion of helping people take their dreams seriously and get into action. If you know someone who might benefit from my coaching, please invite them to contact me by phone or email. As coaching sessions happen over Skype, geography is not a barrier. Visit www.1step2leap.com for more!